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Scrambled Eggs & IVF Identity: A Movie, a Message, and a Moment I Didn’t See Coming

Cracked egg glowing with soft light symbolizing IVF identity and grief.”

Spoiler-ish heads up:


There’s a scene at the end of Scrambled that I’m going to talk about in detail. If you haven’t watched the movie yet and want to go in fresh, maybe bookmark this and come back. But if you’ve already seen it — or if you’re someone who finds comfort in knowing the emotional payoff is worth it — keep reading. You’re in for something beautiful.




When a Movie Gets Too Real (and Also, Thank God It Does)


I wasn’t expecting much from Scrambled.


It showed up in my recommendations right after I found out that none of our embryos were viable. Two were chromosomally abnormal. One was inconclusive. Translation: it didn’t work. Again.


I was in that headspace where your body feels like static and your brain can’t complete a sentence, and the only thing I could do was sit and scroll. I pressed play.


And that’s when this film — with its slightly awkward humor and belly-shot bruises — completely cracked me open in the best way.




That Baby Shower Scene? Too Real.


There’s this moment in the film where the main character, Nellie, walks into a baby shower, and someone asks her, “What’s new with you?”

And the camera zooms in like it’s her moment to shine. Cue the emotional existential crisis!


God. That question.

“What’s new with you?”

It’s always asked at the worst times. Family gatherings. Showers. Holidays. Group texts. And if you’re going through IVF — or trying to figure out if your body can even keep up — it hits like a slap.


But the film gets it. It doesn’t brush past it. It shows the weight of that question in all its uncomfortable glory — and somehow still makes you laugh through the cringe. That’s the magic of Scrambled: it lets you feel seen and lets you breathe.





The Scene That Shattered Me (in the Best Way)


But it was the ending that really gutted me. In a gentle, soul-reset kind of way.


Nellie writes a letter to the eggs she’s frozen. She talks to them — with honesty and tenderness. She tells them they were the most intentional thing she’s ever done. She doesn’t know what their future is, but she honors them anyway. And then she closes the letter with:


“Love, Mom.”


I lost it.


Because for the first time, I realized something I’d never actually said out loud to myself:


I already am a mother.


Even without a living child. Even without a positive test right now.

Even in the grief, the ambiguity, the loss — I’ve been a mother all along.


To the embryos I prayed over.

To the baby I miscarried.

To the cycles I gave my body to.

To the dreams I carried in my gut, even when I was too scared to say them out loud.




Redefining Motherhood When the World Only Sees Outcomes


IVF has a way of narrowing your vision. It makes you fixate on numbers: follicles, embryos, hCG, days past transfer. It pulls your identity into what’s not happening yet — and robs you of recognizing what already is.


Motherhood isn’t just live birth. It’s devotion. It’s sacrifice. It’s choosing hope when logic says not to.


Watching Scrambled reminded me that I’ve already shown up for something sacred. I’ve already mothered in ways that no one may ever see — but that doesn’t make it less real.



Why This Movie Was the Shift I Didn’t Know I Needed


I’ve read articles. I’ve joined forums. I’ve heard the affirmations. But it was this story, told simply and imperfectly, that hit me straight in the chest.

It didn’t try to tie everything up in a bow.

It didn’t preach.

It just… reflected something real. And in doing so, gave me permission to rewrite how I see myself.


Not just as “someone trying to become a mom.”

But as someone who already is one.



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Your Turn: Has a Movie Ever Cracked You Open?


Has a show, movie, song, or random TikTok ever hit you so hard it made something click in your soul?


Tell me about it in the comments. Seriously. Let’s build a little collection of sacred media moments for IVF warriors. You never know who might need the exact same shift.

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